You're calling it a battle. I'm asking for help.

This isn’t uncommon. A request for help, for equality, for shared understanding is treated as an attack. (Because as long as we’re ‘irrational’ and ‘just angry,’ our questions of ‘why’ are easy to dismiss.) 

I’m with Lindsey. I want you to be my ally, Dustin. I want you to help me and make me feel welcome. If you don’t want that, sure, fine, but don’t tell me my problem doesn’t exist. Just have the balls to say it does exist, you just don’t care.